discuss them. You can't emote them. And make sure you puncture your virulent accusations with a good helping of 'Yes, I know that part is my fault', because otherwise his sense of fairness will insist that he doesn't deserve all the blame. He'll gladly take fifty per cent, but don't try to heap it all on him, or he'll take the opposite stance and say it's all your fault. Fair is fair, and Libra believes in equal-sized helpings.
It can all get too intellectual for some. Libra is capable of spending hours discussing a relationship - what's wrong with it, what's right with it, how it can be adjusted, how 'we' can make it better. In the end he shows a surprisingly small capacity to actually act on these realizations: he may know them and understand them, but it's hard for him to show them emotionally. Remember that Libra's feeling nature is quite childlike, often very powerful, and usually repressed. And when he's being horribly reasonable and discussing it like a political debate with pros and cons and suggestions for bills and amendments, you feel like doing something simple and basic, like clubbing him, or tearing his clothes off. This sort of behaviour usually has the effect of producing a bland, tolerant look and statement like, 'When you're feeling more reasonable, we'll discuss it, dear.'
Having a reasonable lover can be a great boon. It means you can reason with him or her. On the other hand, there are times when reason has no place in love, and this is often Libra's most difficult and painful lesson in the realm of human relationships. One can sometimes wait a long time for Libra to offer a genuine and spontaneous emotional response which hasn't been reflected over, pro and con, for hours preceding it. But a little understanding for Libra's need for harmony and peace and a place where things can be happy and romantic and free of rejection and darkness, often makes a lot of difference. Sometimes Libra can be coaxed gently into trusting his own emotions in an atmosphere of trust. What he can't do is become somebody else, which means that if you can't accept his innately agreeable and harmony-loving nature, you should try something a little more explosive like an Aries or a Scorpio. Libra is capable of putting an enormous amount of time and energy into relationships, which is a rare thing to find; and he or she is usually willing to try adjustment and compromise because it's innate in Libra's nature to see the need for adjustment. The need for companionship also makes Libra terribly companionable, and if you're the violently independent type who likes to do everything alone, you're liable to have a difficult time with Libra, who likes to do everything together. Some Librans take this togetherness to such extremes that you begin to wonder if they'll fall apart if expected to eat and sleep alone occasionally. Some Librans in fact fall apart that way. But in general, it's a mistake to think this is a weak sign; it's a people-loving sign, and even the quieter, more introverted Libran needs a mate and companion to share his dreams and ideals with.
Librans know a lot about relationships, and the partner is the beneficiary of all of it. It's quite a big bonus, especially if you've had experiences of the opposite kind. But at the beginning and in the end, Libra is an airy sign, not a watery one; and you may have to teach your Libran partner that discussing love is not the same thing as showing it, or feeling it. Never mind. For the romantics of the world, that's a pleasure too.
The Libra Man
One of the most noticeable things about the Libran man is that he possesses a good deal of taste and also a good deal of vanity. He typical Libran isn't one of your rough-and-ready macho types who changes his shirt every three weeks and occasionally checks the mirror to see if he's cut himself shaving. Libran men are usually concerned about how they look, which can produce either a really well-dressed and attractive man who looks and smells good and likes quality and luxury in everything, or a preening peacock. Probably