Let's consider the business of depth.  Scorpio is a sign which never takes a superficial view of life; it's almost impossible for the Scorpio woman to accept something at face value.  This can span a pretty broad range, from the caricature Scorpio who, when you say 'Good morning', wonders exactly what you mean by it, to the Scorpio whose motivation and deepest need is to understand - both herself and the people around her.  In short, this is a woman who expects something more from a relationship than surface tokens.  Love, to Scorpio, is more than demonstrations of affections or security or sexual gratification, or even intellectual camaraderie.  It's a bond which - hopefully, from her point of view - touches the soul, and means no secrets.  No secrets doesn't mean the superficial way of interpreting it either, like where were you at five o'clock on Thursday afternoon.  It means that she expects honesty of character.  Scorpio, being a water sign, has a lot of compassion, which usually comes from her own propensity to torment herself.  The Scorpio woman is probably more capable than any other of both understanding and accepting human weaknesses and human darkness.  She's not afraid of ugliness, internal or external, because to Scorpio dark and light make life interesting.  What she can't stand is the hypocrite, the person who lives in pretence.  If you need your masks and your props, stay away from this woman, because that x-ray eye will see through the lot; and she won't stop at seeing, either.  There's a strong tendency to try to remake others in Scorpio, and the Scorpio woman will often take it upon herself, consciously or unconsciously, to help transform you - especially if you've got a lot to hide. 

Unfortunately for her, there are a great many men roaming the world to whom the idea of being emotionally honest, or straightforward in revealing their own motives, is absolute horror. 

Not that that's such a reprehensible thing.  It isn't easy to face the mirror, not to the degree Scorpio thinks you should face it.  But this is the one area where the Scorpio woman shows her intolerance.  She can accept anything in anybody except what she considers to be weakness of character - that is, the person who hasn't the strength to face himself.  And she can be pretty scornful, and pretty scathing, if she feels let down. 

That propensity for depth is a double-edged sword.  On the one hand, it makes her a rare woman, because she's capable of not only seeing but also sharing your pain and your dreams and your burdens; and her enormous strength of will and loyalty are unshakeable even when yours are flagging a little.  But her expectations are high; and it isn't easy to live up to them.  Basically, she expects that you, like her, should want to be constantly engaged in the great alchemical work of transformation, nothing less.  If you happen to prefer sailing and cowboy films to introspection, you might have to explain yourself.  Your only chance is in convincing her of the justice of your rights to be yourself.  Justice is a thing the Scorpio woman understands.  Her sense of justice is so keen and so sensitive and it's virtually inflexible.  If she thinks you're in the right, then she's capable of sacrificing completely her own desires and opinions.  If she thinks you're in the wrong, and you don't apologize or change your viewpoint, she'll retaliate. 

Let's talk about retaliation, since, if you're involved with a Scorpio, you'll have to get used to the concept.  Scorpio's sense of justice, as we mentioned, is pretty acute.  It isn't an intellectually based judgmental faculty like Libra's either; it's a powerful, gut-level, emotional reaction to any situation where she feels she's been abused and treated wrongly.  This can range from being rejected or insulted - which in the case of the more paranoid Scorpio may mean an imaginary rejection or insult - to betrayal.  Betrayal is perhaps the thing she hates and fears the most.  And if she feels betrayed, she's more likely to strike back than to turn the other cheek.  Nice Christian patience and mildness are not, repeat not, qualities which you should be trying to find in Scorpio.  It's good basic, primitive stuff - eye for an eye, and all that.  Never maliciously, or with cruelty.  Just enough to teach you a lesson. 

Does it sound a little hair-raising?  Well, it depends on how you

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